Plenty of fish dating site is bullshit
I tried it your way this week - was very frank - said I'm sorry I don't feel any chemistry, I had a nice time, but thanks I don't want to go on another date... A pseudo breakup scenerio with someone I barely knew!!!
I haven't cancelled to avoid looking rude, I've cancelled to avoid a bad date, or being pressured into something I didn't feel comfortable with yet. I'll chicken out or just not feel like putting in the effort if I darn well please.
Theres no way I can compete when im seeing her 2 or 3 times a week and these guys are talking to her everyday, even into the small hours of the morning.
If you get even a hint of someone "pursuing more than one option", just save yourself a lot of pain and don't bother. Meeting and dating someone shouldn't be this difficult; too many rules, too many conditions. The whole thread has gotten very harsh, and I'm sure it has to do with touchy feelings about being stood up and insecurities that go along with that.
So maybe this is what happened in the case of the OP, maybe the woman just got a bad feeling about something. Everyone has lives and some have complicated lives with children, ex's, elderly parents, work.....there are lots of outside influences that would cause you to cancel a date.
Good point puppluv123....people do have complicated lives and at least you were honest.
You have NO idea how long it took me to convince my 76 YEAR OLD WIDOWED MOM that she could at the very least make friends on these kind of sites!
I helped her sketch out a profile, she put a picture of the two of us that was very nice. ), full faced, and I showed her how to sign in and out, and how to add to a description of herself when she was ready.
Could it be that you gravitate to the wrong kind of woman? Well..something is good, then I don't think much will change overnight. Sometimes women (and maybe men) get scared and back out. On a different dating site I had exchanged a couple of emails with this guy. We decided to meet for a coffee but wanted to speak to each other on the phone first.If you want to talk percentages, I believe that at least 80% of us are good women, and you should give women another chance. I don't know what it was but some red flags went up.Maybe you bring out the worst in the women you've met? I was too nervous to say anything during our phone conversation but I did email him the next day and apologized and said I wouldn't be able to meet him after all. The point is, I knew it wasn't going to be a good meeting so why put both of us through that, no games intended on my part.I must suffer the third degree to meet and date an attractive woman; regardless of how shy she pretends to be? I have found that people have a really hard time being very honest with someone about not wanting to be with them--for whatever reason.I recently began chatting with someone and in the course of trying to get her to lighten up she slams the door and blocks me! Just trying to get her to tell me why she is such a cold fish on first dates; no kissing, no hand holding nor any hugs? Many out there are more than willing to give me a hug or a kiss; could it be the forbidden fruit aspect? It is just easier for them to bail out at the last minute, or to ignore them altogether, than be honest and say they have changed their minds and don't want to risk meeting or being with you.
Search for plenty of fish dating site is bullshit:
Women like that make it difficult for the ones that are really looking for something real. I assume its because they like to use people or want to hop around & experience different guys. Be glad you found out now before you took them out to someplace expensive. It's shouldn't be a big deal really, if they pull this on you even once, tell them to bugger off and simply hit the delete button. I just got told that a guy I was dating was going to pick me up and NEVER showed up. Now, after 3 dates, if the guy is still looking than I know its not gonna work.